What happens when you tell stories without action? You end up living in your glory days even if those glory days never happens.
"I'm going to start training. And then I'm going to run that marathon. And then I am going to speed up my time. And then I'm going to get a sponsorship. And then..."
But the training never begins. Or the training begins and never continues. And we tell ourselves some story to either cover up the 'failure' or we tell ourselves why we can't do something.
Always the bridesmaid, never the bride. We've all been around those people who are always the storyteller, never the achiever. Sometimes we are it.
What happens? Why do some people achieve and others just talk?
1. Fear
Stop and evaluate your fear. Find the real root of it. Then ask yourself what is the worst case scenario if that fear came true. What is the best case scenario if it didn't? Is the reward worth the consequence?
Here's an example: "I'm going to start training."
Fear: "I'm going to get injured" or "I'm not as fast as I thought I would be" or "I'm too old for this"
Worst case scenario: You end up with an injury where you either have to train thru the injury or you will need to change what you are training for because the injury is straight up preventing it.
You find out that you aren't going to break any speed records and you now have the choice of training hard to increase your speeds or be ok with where you are at.
Turns out that you aren't too old for something. You might not break records like the above one, but most things you train for have age groups and will find 60 year old and above athletes. And they currently beat any of my records. Age is a number, not a deciding factor.
Best case scenario: You don't get injured and your training goes amazing, you get sponsored, you find out that you are an amazing athlete and you love what you do.
You aren't as fast as you thought you would be in the beginning, but through hard work, diligence, and grit you train to be faster than you ever thought possible, you get sponsored, you find out that you are an amazing athlete and you love what you do.
You find out that you are the fastest person in your age group, you get the first sponsorship for someone as ancient as you, and you go on to show the world that age is just a number.
Now you have to decide is the risk worth the reward. Sometime it isn't. So be honest with yourself.
2. No Anchor
Hopefully this will make sense. Sometimes we are all words because we have this aching hole inside ourselves that the next thing is going to fix and fill. If I was a doctor I would be a whole person. If I had a puppy I would find fulfillment. If I had a green thumb, I could build a garden and have a purpose.
We have an internal wound that we hope we can fix with an external bandage.
Instead, we need to stop and stare in the abyss of that hole. We need to know that hole is a wound we are carrying until we will fill. We fill it with self-acceptance, we fill it with knowledge that we are whole, we have value, and we are an amazing soul waiting to spring forth. It is waiting for us to embrace ourselves and ignore the demons that parrot what the world is yelling at us.
3. Pain avoidance
Life is suffering. A rich and fulfilled life comes at the cost of a lot of suffering. Growth brings so much reward, but also pain. If you avoid everything that is hard and everything that hurts you will straight up end with a crap life that is filled with so much miserable comfortableness.
Avoid suffering brings its own ugliness and its own pain. How many miserable old fucks have you seen that are filled with so much regret over all their what ifs? Don't be a miserable old fuck. No ragrets people. Embrace life. Befriend suffering. Learn to not suffer in the suffering. Zen and all that shit.
Face your fears, anchor your soul in the wonder that is you, and become bffs with pain. Make pain your boo. You and pain, pain and You, so happy together... 🎵🎵🎵
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