So I considered inserting a Jonestown photo here (post fruity drank). You're welcome.
It doesn't and shouldn't be that extreme.
We pride ourselves on our loyalties. RIDE OR DIE! A loyal person NEVER changes their loyalties... but should this be true?
I think loyalties need to change particularly in 2 situations.
1. That thing/person/place you are loyal to changes and is no longer what you committed to.
2. You have changed and you are no longer who you were when you made that commitment.
There is a difference between supporting someone through a difficult situation and supporting someone who continually makes choices that are ethically contrary to your values. We fuck up. We all do. But we don't support fuck ups. We support change and growth with compassion.
I'm going to vomit a bit more contrite sayings onto you. You cannot pour from an empty cup. If you continually pour into something or someone that doesn't also give something back, you will have no energy for yourself.
And on a smaller scale, you only have so many fucks you can actually give in a day. What if you waste your fucks on things that don't matter. And you sit back and wonder why you don't have any fucks left to give towards the things that matter to you.
Have you heard of decision fatigue? It happens when you've made too many decisions for the day so you stop deciding and blindly accept whatever is in front of you. Have you ever been in your closet and you are overwhelmed with "I don't have anything to wear" and then you grab crap for breakfast. Let me just say that your clothes burned through all your decision making abilities for the time being.
This post sounds really negative and I didn't mean it that way. I simply meant that it might be time to re-evaluate where your loyalties lie AND it is a good thing if they change to suit your life now.
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